“Is that on your D-I-E-T?” or “Should you be eating that?” or “Those veggies look disgusting.”
It can be frustrating to hear judging comments. Knowing the right thing to say when people judge your healthy diet can avoid negative feelings.
Whether you are eating a healthy diet for essential wellness or managing a symptom or disease, you should be prepared for a response.
Tips When People Judge Your Healthy Diet
1. Don’t feel obligated to explain ‘your business.’
Choose one or two canned comebacks that fit your personality and match the scenarios you frequent. Judgment comments, especially when made by someone you don’t know well or in front of a crowd, can be embarrassing!
Having a light-hearted comment at-the-ready can prevent you from feeling obligated to ‘fix the awkwardness’ by explaining your situation to everyone.
Typically, these types of comments are more about the speaker’s insecurities and less about concern for you. Just keep it short and move on. You aren’t going to be able to fix their insecurity,
Examples I use include, “It works for me!” or “It keeps me awake!”
2. Stop saying “I can’t eat that.”
Most of us who are eating healthy food are putting a lot of effort into being well after making a conscious decision to do so. When we tell friends or family that we can’t eat something, it diminishes the control you have of your situation and can put negative thoughts in your mind.
A more positive response is “I’m not eating that anymore” or “I’m eating food that makes me feel good.”
3. Don’t get mad.
People can seem more aggressive if they know (or think) you have pre-diabetes or diabetes.
Comments like, “If you didn’t eat so much sugar, you wouldn’t have to deal with diabetes.” and
“Managing your diet and getting more exercise will cure your diabetes.”
Don’t get mad. Think instead about how frequently diabetes management is in the public eye right now. Most of the time, people make these comments because they’ve recently read a ‘great’ article and they think they are a help to you.
When people judge your healthy diet, it is easy to feel fearful, judged, hurt or frustrated. It is tempting to tell the person stop being so intrusive (in not so friendly ways!).
Instead of making comments out of anger, focus instead on how great you feel about taking better care of yourself.
Diabetes is complicated, and no one is an expert after reading one article. A response can be something like, “Thanks for your concern.” and maybe also, “I am following my doctor’s orders.”
4. Don’t lecture
Lecturing will only keep the focus on the situation. The truth is that they don’t want to learn anything from you about eating healthy.
So, change the focus back to them instead. A quick response from your canned response list and then a question back to the person will usually do the trick to shift the focus.
An example may be, “It keeps me awake!” and then, “Hey, how’s your (family, kids, pet, project) doing?”
5. Finally, don’t give in!
Remember your WHY and focus on it.
You decided to start eating healthier, so remember why you chose to do it. Giving in to the pressure from someone who is not being an advocate for your future health or wellness is the silliest and most damaging mistake of all.
Don’t do it!
The Bottom Line When People Judge Your Healthy Diet
You are the only one who is in charge of your health and wellness. YOU are your best advocate.
Very likely someone, at sometime is going to comment. Being prepared is the key to keeping the situation from being an awkward situation. Having a canned comeback, remembering the motives behind the comments and focusing on YOUR why is the way to avoid silly mistakes when people judge your healthy diet!
If you feel like you need a little more help finding the confidence to start taking better care of yourself, my free mini-course can help you learn about using God’s faithfulness and give you some simple, beginner tips.