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4 Simple Communication Tips to be Happy in Marriage

5/19/20

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I thought my husband was trying to irritate me on purpose, but nothing could have been further from the truth! Of course, I didn’t know that at the time.

But this silly belief made me pretty unhappy as a new wife. And, what you believe can influence how you feel, how you think, and what you say.

So, I didn’t always communicate well.

That’s why it’s important to have a strong foundation for what you believe. One of the most crucial things to believe as a couple is that husbands and wives can communicate well in any circumstance.

Working on your marriage so you can have a positive relationship experience is part of a healthy self-care plan. Research shows that the more robust and affirmative your relational self-care experience is every day, the more successful you will be while taking care of yourself or making changes in your lifestyle.

In short, after I moved forward in my marriage with this new belief, I discovered four simple communication tips to be happy in marriage. These effective tips changed my attitude.

Therefore, my new belief became a reality.

The four tips below helped me so much that I created a printable. I want you to have it to help you with your marriage too. I also put 4 of my favorite marriage-related verses in it!

list of the 4 tips & verses for a happy marriage

You can get your copy at the bottom of this post. Keep reading to learn the valuable tips I’ve placed the printable!

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Mind-reading Doesn’t Exist

First, I expected my husband to read my mind. Not like in the science-fiction movies.

It was more like I felt like he should know what I wanted him to do without me telling him.

In addition, I assumed he always knew what I doing and what I was going to do next. Above all, my belief was that he should ‘just know’ when I needed his help.

For example, if I was preparing dinner in the kitchen and became overwhelmed, I expected him come to help me without being asked.

But he didn’t come help me. Of course, that would make me mad.

Then, I assumed he didn’t want to help me. This thinking led to some pretty heated (and one-sided arguments).

But then I set out to learn the truth.

I struggle with saying what I want.

So, I changed my belief about my husband’s ability to know what I want and need without telling him.

Now, although it is sometimes difficult for me to say it, I work hard to remember to tell him what I want.

Going back to my example of preparing dinner, now I use a different strategy.

Instead of thinking my husband doesn’t want to help me, I ask for help. In fact, I asked him to ‘give me permission’ to ask him to help me.

So I ask.

And, do you know what? Every time I ask him to help me, he does!

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Identify the Story

In addition to realizing my husband is not a mind-reader, I am learning that my beliefs lead me to tell myself stories.

What I mean by ‘a story’ is that in addition to thinking my husband doesn’t want to help me, I create reasons why my husband feels that way.

It is quite easy to identify when you are telling yourself a story.

When you have thoughts about your husband (especially if they’re negative), ask yourself why he’s doing that. Then, pay attention to the story you’re telling yourself.

The story I was telling myself in the previously mentioned ‘making dinner scenario’ varied, but most often I told myself the reason he didn’t want to help me was because he was mad at me.

The thought of him being mad at me made me feel defensive (because I felt bad and didn’t know what I had done to make him mad).

Feeling defensive led to emotional arguments.

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Calm Down Before Speaking – Simple Communication Tips to be Happy in Marriage

I find I have a hard time having a rationale conversation if I’m upset.

Therefore, I recommend that you calm down before talking to your spouse when you’re upset.

Give yourself a few minutes to walk away and clear your head so you can see if you are expecting your husband to read your mind, or if you’re telling yourself a story.

Finally, it is best to allow yourself to feel and work through your emotions so you fully understand how you feel yourself before trying to explain your feelings to your spouse.

It’s easier to speak to your spouse if your intense emotions are not driving what you say.

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Pray for Your Husband

The other thing that has made a positive influence on my marriage is praying for my husband.

I never knew the value of doing this until I completed a simple Bible study called The Power of a Praying Wife.

The study helped me learn numerous ways I can pray for my husband. Even today (after 10 years), I use bookmarked pages as stepping stones to pray for my husband a few minutes every day during my quiet time.

Praying for your husband is a powerful tool to help you love your husband as God created him to be!

However, I can also tell you that this study changed me too!

The most important thing I learned through praying for my husband is to stop looking for my husband to fulfill me in the areas where I should be looking to God.

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Simple Communication Tips to be Happy in Marriage

In closing, there are always going to be various challenges in marriage, especially with communication.

But as I mentioned above, the most crucial thing to believe is that husbands and wives can communicate well in any circumstance.

Following the four simple communication tips can help you find happiness in your marriage:

  1. Mind-reading doesn’t exist
  2. Identify the story
  3. Calm down before speaking
  4. Pray for your husband

To help you remember these tips (and have some quick-reference Bible verses to pray over), I created this free download for you. Download this printable to start applying these simple tips in your marriage so you can be happy in your marriage too!

list of the 4 tips & verses for a happy marriage

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